Posts Tagged food

Food Is Not Better Than Sex

At lunch on the 24th, a woman friend said that anyone who says food is better than sex hasn’t had good sex. Also that sex is more than just the physical act, it is also the intimacy, the closeness, the sharing, the afterglow.

I was asking my friend about the woman who wrote (in a newspaper article I read) that music and food—specifically 70% dark chocolate—give her more of a rush than sex (see post on June 9th about overeating)

Last week I met a man who buys cocoa beans and turns them into chocolate bars. He also said that as good as chocolate is, especially his high-quality bars, he can’t imagine any man thinking chocolate, or any food, is above sexual activity in the pleasure-rating scale. He also thought most women would agree with him, but suspected that women probably do have more enjoyment eating than men, in general. What do you think?

Thursday tennis was fair—my team split the two sets. I hit fewer long balls, serve was stronger than anyone’s (though I was broken twice), and my net game was mediocre.

Also made arrangements with the coach at the local squash club to join and play more regularly.

One more gym visit due for the month…and maybe some effort at home to bring out more muscles than is possible with just eight workouts a month.

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Two Enormously Different Ways to View Food and Life—Narrow and Wide

Here is an email I received from Dorli DiGrigorio commenting on a June 6th post questioning if you should tell your friends that they are fat?


I feel it is so important to keep our one given body that miraculously works most of the time in as good condition as possible. Your site gives people a chance to vent and share their successes and failures.

Your concern over the criticism you gave your friend eating multiple desserts (ed: see June 6 post) sparked my writing about what I learned at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation in relation to food. I don’t think you meant to put your friend down, but since he was trying to lose weight, you reminded him, and he didn’t seem to like that too much.

Food, I learned, like everything else, can be used to be wide and care for things more or to be narrow and give less meaning. We can, for instance, sit down at breakfast and think about where this food that is sustaining us comes from, and who were the people involved in growing, picking, delivering, selling it… and all the time having thoughts and feelings of their own. So, we are then using the food to be wide…to like the world more.

Then, there are instances when the world has given us a hard time. Perhaps there was traffic, an argument, or just plain everyday stress. We hit the refrigerator and look for a sweet treat or two and could unconsciously think, “now, the world is here to serve ME and assuage my hurt.” This is an example of food being narrow.

When one becomes too obsessive about one’s body, it is also narrow, and the wider world is not thought of enough. Read the rest of this entry »

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